signal boost

Since it's farther back on the blog and some new readers might not have seen it, just reminding yall - there's a post here for linking to unbinary, trans, and otherwise queer media.  We could use some links!

This is a really interesting diagram i was linked to today.  It certainly doesn't cover all the bases (being limited to only man <==> woman and feminine <==> masculine, for example) but i think it's a great resource for if you're just introducing yourself or someone else to the idea of gender and sex being separate things.  Enjoy!

While this blog is primarily about gender, it's also about acceptance of all healthy lifestyles, about non-judgment, about love for the human body.  That said, here is an excellent mini-documentary on fat:

http://vimeo.com/user7991852/fat

four common agendered pronouns

for your reference.

new binder came today.  so happy.

gender binary

from tumblr.

3 things i've learned as a trans person

or, why i’m so bitter towards cissexual strangers

1.) If someone asks what you were ‘born as’, tell them it doesn’t matter.  If you tell them the truth, they’ll insist on referring to you as such.

2.) If someone asks what your ‘real name’ is, repeat the name you already gave them.  They don’t believe your name is real because you chose it.

3.) If they persist and say ‘no, what name were you born with’, tell them it’s none of their business.  Or they’ll insist on referring to you by your old name.

The plaintext is advice, the italics are the reasoning that runs through my head at the time.  Unfortunately in many cases the italicized section is not true and the person is just curious and doesn’t understand why these are rude questions, but you can’t tell that until you give them a chance to act like an ass - which means you might then have to deal with someone being an ass, natch.  It’s so much easier and feels so much safer to just be jaded.  The italicized text has been true too many times.

Righteous Pain

Few things are a kick in the transgender ass quite like having to part ways with your same-gendered partner when you get to the bathrooms.  Thanks, binary!


And yes, this is an indication that you'll be seeing more from me from now on.  Fingers crossed, anyway!

holy fucking shit

Here's one for anyone who doesn't believe that rape often goes unreported for fear of backlash on the victim: http://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/2011/05/27/a-cheerleaders-rape-in-a-small-texas-town/

[EXTREME trigger warning]

subject

You may have noticed there was no post for Coming Out Day.  This was intentional - i do not, very much, like the idea of a day which may create a ton of pressure, or a false sense of security, for people who may not be in a safe place to Come Out in.  i also feel that, whilst queer solidarity is a great thing, the push on LGBTQI?! folk to make their private lives public as a matter of the public good can be extremely unfair, and sometimes just as oppressive as not being able to be open about their identities at all.

For those who enjoy Coming Out Day as a celebration and a concept, hooray, i am happy for them.  i don't personally celebrate it, though.

Just in case you were wondering!